Personal space in the age of social media is a new dilemma across the cyber space. Living in the attention age when many use websites, blogs, Twitter, Facebook to claim their own space online (call it personal branding or presence online), to break down inter personal barriers and or to stay in touch with family and friends (and also some time with total strangers). Some folks are online every time of the day and night (and would start texting when they are not connected). Very geeky!
Some other still see online space and the social media as time wasting diversions, distractions and very stressful. Some time ago I wrote about the need of attention and engagement in corporate and public sectors. But this is about building business consumer relationship. This is about personal space we all need online.
Well, I am not a relationship guru of any sort but I observe and do know people who are logged in all the time and keep looking for anyone remotely known to come up online. They would start trolling, desperately trying to keep the conversation going, no matter what. Some will keep searching what others are doing online, will comment on each and every blog post, answer, like, retweet and share or favorite all updates (how unrelated they may be). May be they don’t have anything better to do than to lurk.
Internet – where millions are reportedly looking for serious relationship – is truly a lonely place without your own social media community of like minded people to interact meaningfully but bringing private life online for the world’s amusement is out rightly foolish,
Where is an equilibrium point? Most effective tools in relationship building online (or off) are mutual understanding, trust, courtesy, respect and gratitude. Develop deep understanding and everything else will follow and you will not need space then.
No. Far from it. I don’t need space. LOL
Nice post with a twist.
A very beautiful and convincing post that can generate an interesting discussion.
In the face of different types of distractions, how you manage your online space is the question? Please eleboate on that.
I think people are online while maintaining their own space; they spend as much time there as is desired or necessary for their business. Also, they open up as much as they like. And, spend time on social networks whenever it is possible prioritizing their other activities and business.
The interesting factor is they go off line without any time and without any notice or apology. Similarly they respond to their online messages according to their personal convenience.
So, being on social media doesn’t mean we compromise our own space.
True. That seems to be a workable equilibrium. Wish all nitizens (me included) could do that. Thanks.
Very nice post and really liked it. I do agree with what you say and being in this social media for about 3 years i do have my own experience. I think once when you are a armature in social media you just share all the things on your wall, but once you get mature in cyber you understand more and with the online experience and if you are intelligent you will know how to handle the online and still be on the attention
I think intellegence and rational doesn’t come in if you are involved. The question to you is how managing personal space different in case of online and off situation. When you need and when you don’t.
Involved in cyber have different meanings. It can be relationship vise or it can be like bloggers like you and me. If you are hanging online just for fun and time pass then the best would be give your time in more useful work and avoiding your computer on purposely, and this way you can manage your personal life perfectly.
Thanks for your opinion on this.
Me and personal space are best friends. I need like a 5 degree of separation for me to be comfortable.
Even though you’re in a relationship you still need that personal space you know.
Thinhs used to be different in our times (now known as old times). Human used to keep private things as private. But no more. It looks now people have relationship just for the sack of braging to everyone online.
To me, if the relationship of anykind is shared with everyone online, it is no relationship. So the question of space doens’t arise, in the first place.
Some people really need to take a course in personal space. You seem to be the one for sure.
I think I do. LOL
Baz aa jao!
Lucky if you can find a like minded and similarly wired friend.
Thanks for this post. One thing is clear. Every one seems to have own social media agenda. No two persons are the same.
Your post is definitely convincing and depicts a picture of all those who have found social media presence as an outlet for their inner loneliness, which is certainly not the remedy. Coming across like minded people is just a temporary solution to our problem each one of us have their own self created problems, inhibitions, fears and concerns, therefore we have the most control on ourselves not on others therefore we need to focus on ourselves more than on others. Finding contentment in others issues and lifestyle is just a way out not the final solution I believe.
Social media presence is useful no doubt in business promotion, idea sharing, creativity inculcation, professional presentation and opening new avenues of opportunities of growth are the fundamental pros of all types of social media.
At the same time usage of this medium largely depends on us, its just a tool in our hand but the usage depends upon us and our mindset. Lack of direction among our youth is certainly a kind of misuse of social media quite similar to mobile network usage.
Anyway, keep promoting more awareness. Good effort!
Good find.
Relationship always develop only when both parties are willing. But some people are introvert. No?